After a long time, in a form of rhyme

It springs out as female infanticide
Covering the controller's sight;
Or kills her before she cries
Clearing the womb so that it dries;
Because, for it, the mating of illiteracy and penury
Has no place to stay in this capitalist's jury.

This throny shrub grows fast as pine;
Initially Eve-teasing her in plain,
Then stalking her in terrain,
And at last killing her with its spine,
Nowhere secret, but in train.

It spreads wide across like cactus
If we resist, with acid it may attack us

Even in her house, she is in silence.
Cause it has penetrated there too-
In the name of domestic violence

It's growth has a glassy phase,
Which has ceiled her in work place;
Detaing her from the very race,
Cause her strength it can't face.

It blames her for wandering at night
Not abling to control it's wandering mind.
It curses her for her dress,
But even with 2nd grade girl
It makes mess.
It probes  her background,
Searching reasons to runaround.

She may be father's girl or mother's world,
But when loved someone
She's accused to be devil's own.
Her murder -
Is not spelled louder,
For she is stamped as honour degrader.

Now tired of hearing all its varieties,
Your question is about our duties.

Instead of shouting for padmavati,
Join hands to support swathi.
Give her her freedom,
If not she'll anex it by her wisdom.
She asks for no protection,
But she desevers recognition.
Learn to accept her for what she is,
Then to every home she brings bliss.

After a year's sleep
I would like to leap
I forgot how to glow
So I yield in to my flow
I was not busy with my academics
Just taken over by life's dynamics
This new year's resolution
Is to leave off all my delusions
Stepping out of adolescent
I can't be still ignorant
I should learn to be independent
Practice to be an Incumbent

"LOOKS", JUST LOOK

SO, THERE I AM AGAIN . BACK  WITH THE SAME SPIRIT TO BLOG ABOUT  THIS CURRENT BURSTER TOPIC FEMINISM.

BEING A SOUTH INDIAN, I KNOW I AM CONSTRAINED TO MY OWN SOCIETY. SOMETIMES I THINK, I AM EXPORING PROBLEMS ONLY IN MY OWN CITY BUT NOT THE WHOLE NATION.
        I  BELIEVE " NATION BUILDS, WHEN BLOCKS RISE " NATION CONSTITUTES  THE .EVERY VARIED SOCIETY. SO IAM HERE TO REPRESENT MY OWN CITY.
           WHY DID THIS GIRL START AGAIN? WILL BE THE QUERY KICKING IN MANY MINDS. BUT I AM HERE NOT WITHOUT A CAUSE.

ITS IN A WOE, I SAY THAT MY VERY OWN UNCLE EXPIRED LAST MONTH 18 IN AN ACCIDENT IN TINDIVANAM.  A SUDDEN THUNDER IN THE MIDNIGHT CHANGED THE MORNIING SCENERIO. WE PLANNED TO GO IN THE MORNING TRAIN. BUT WE GOT UP LATE.  MY FATHER  BECAME A SHEPERD IN MAKING US TO URGE FAST TO CATCH THE TRAIN. WHATEVER ATTIRE WE SAW FIRST , WE WORE AND TOOK OFF.

                AFTER STEPPING TINDIVANAM, MY FATHER NOTICED US. THERE ARE TWO SIBLINGS WITH ME. WHY DIDN`T YOU WERE YOUR CHAIN AND WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR BRACELET. MY FATHER  SAID, "SINCE YOU ARE ATTENDING A MOURNING PLACE, THAT DOESN`T MEAN YOU SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. YOU ARE GIRLS. WHAT WILL THE VILLAGERS THINK?
            MY FATHER WAS VERY MUCH CONSIDERD ON OUR IMAGE, SINCE HE DON`T WANT TO LED HIS DOWN.
WHAT IS THIS? NO ONE THERE IN THE MOURNING HOUSE, GOING TO INVESTIGATE WHY ANBAZHAGAN `S DAUGHTER DINDN`T WEAR A CHAIN. MY UNCLE IS NOT GOING HAVE A SUDDEN REBIRTH, IF I WEAR A BRACELET.
WE DON`T KNOW WHETHER WE CRIED FOR OUR UNCLE OR FOR OUR OWN LIVELY DEATH SITUATION.

THE REASON BEHIND THIS IS THAT, WHEREVER WE GO THERE IS CERTAIN AADHAR CARD LEGALISED BY THE SOCIETY FOR THE GIRLS ALONE . WHEN WE DON`T HAVE THIS CARD, WE ARE OUT OF THE TRACK AND WILL BE THE SHOW OF THE DAY.
AT THE MOURNING HOUSE ALSO, WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE IN CONSTRAINED CIRCLE IN ATTIRES, TALKS, EMOTIONS AND EVEN IN MOURNING.

LOOKS ARE NECESSARY FOR EVERYONE IRRESPECTIVE OF MALE OR FEMALE TO CARRY OUT THEMSELVES. BUT ITS UNJUST THAT IT BECOMES A MANDATORY REQUIREMENT FOR FEMALE IN ALL ARENA BUT OPTIONAL FOR MALE.


 

NOT AN END , BUT A CLOSE......ITS OUR ENDLESSS FLY

BEFORE CLOSE....WHY? WHY THIS?

"FEMINISM".... WHY NO   "MALENISM"  ????
 A topic or a issue arises, not without  reasons but it takes shapes because there is something wrong ,and true that the problem exist.  There is a topic, subject, course on  FEMINISM , means  something unjust is there.. But no word for MALENISM.

Its a my kind obligation to end our journey. We have not pressed stop button in the remote but paused it. Because by ending the blog , doesn't`t mean that we  have halted our fly. It doesn't`t mean we have finished our duty, our flow of thoughts has come to end and we explore no more. If that's the pre assumption of someone who sees the title, sorry we are not and won`t . We have lots to encounter in this life, a combination of, joy and sorrows.  But we swear that we will never give way for our personal troubles to stop our fly, till we get a permanent answer and change.

SO ITS PLEASURE FOR ME TO INTRODUCE ALL THE CASSOWARIES, THRIVING TO SWOOP BY DUSTING THE CLINCHES IN OUR WINGS.....
 

KEERTHANA SATHISH KUMAR
         
                  A GIRL OF HER OWN,
           GIVES NO WAY FOR ANY MASTERING DON,

           HER THOUGTS ALWAYS GO BEFORE HER

          A THIN BOOK, WITH LOTS OF QUESTION
            HER THINKING CAN BEGET A NEW NATION!!!


A. NIVETHA

             A  NEW, IN A CREW
          SHE IS SHORT, NOT SO HER THOUGHTS
         NAMED AS GOOD
        NOT EASY FOR HER TO NOD

POORNIMA SHANKARI


         A DOER TO OUR FLY
     BUT COMES TO WRONG, HESITATE TO SHY

    GOOD WRITER, PROVED THE SAME AS BLOGGER

    SHE GOES AND GOES , FEAR IS NOT HER BED
   HER  VOICE NEVER END


SATHYA PRIYA


SHE IS STRONG AS HER VOICE
HER VOICE, IS NOT TO HAVE NOISE

A GIRL OF COURAGE, IS SHE

HER WORLD IS AROUND THE FOUR  WALL, HER HOUSE
BUT NOT SO HER NOTIONS


VAANI

A GIRL FOR SILENCE
 NOT IN WRITING

SHE SPEAKS LESS, MAKES SURE , HER WORDS HAVE AN IMPACT

HER VOICE IS LOW
SHE IS A FEMINIST SPARROW.


SO, TIME TO WAVE OUR HANDS....
WE SWEAR TO WAVE OUR WINGS ALWAYS. WE PAUSE ANTICIPATING A CHANGE, WAITING FOR THE SEVENTH HEAVEN


A HEARTLY THANKS TO ALL OUR VIEWERS AND SUSCRIBERS FOR TAKING A LOOK AT OUR FIRST START. THANKS FOR ALL YOUR COMMENTS, SUGGESTIONS AND COMPLIMENTS.
    
     WE ARE THANKFUL TO YOUR COMPLIMENTS
   AND WILL WORK ON, ABOUT YOUR  CRITICISM


BYE!!BYE      NOT AN END, WE START , SO ALL WITH US FOR THE
                       
               ENDLESS  FLY!!!!!!

     

       


            
 

Please alter your attitude and accept

After these many days of listing our issues and displaying the darker side of society I would like to end by suggesting some solutions that stepped up in my mind.

The present scenario in which the girl child is mercilessly killed even before birth, does not speak too well about the fate of this species. The scenario is so varied that, it is really difficult to understand what we are really doing or trying to do in this regard.

On the one hand we see girls entering in the fields of all kinds of professions holding senior positions in offices, becoming engineers, doctors, managers etc. We are obviously impressed and are likely to believe that, the position of the girl is now after all not too bad.

However, the complexity of the problem becomes malicious when we see that, together with girls entering professions there is a simultaneous and continuous rise in the graph of crimes against women. Why and how do these two sides of the same problem co-relate, is a mind-boggling situation.

This situation is true of the urban area where education and freedom is given to girls - to a great extent, but even this growth of this class does not really bear any testimony to the equality of girls with boys.

The rural areas consisting of the major chunk of the Indian population see no - yes absolutely no change in the general attitude towards girls. In the villages, girls are not sent to schools and, if at all they are, they drop out after their Higher secondary.

Here, the myth still remains that, education is useless for girls - they have to concentrate on house work, child bearing and child bringing up all through life - and all this, it is believed needs no education. The village people are hard to convince that education of women is as important if not more important than the education of men.

In the village, the girl child has no say in anything in the home, not even things of her own concern - she is, even to-day in the 21st Century treated as an object to be used instead of an individual human being with all the ingredients of human beings - like her counterparts - the boy.

She, even today remains to have the status of an object to be used or dispensed with at the whims and fancies of her male family members. With this psyche of the average Indian adult, I personally see no light at the end of the dark tunnel.

In my view, even for the urban areas, the prospects of the girl child are not too bright as, even while women are acquiring status and positions in the office - firstly, they do not get the respect the male counterparts get in the offices.

Besides no matter what status a woman may achieve outside home, inside the home she, by and large remains a chattel. When this is the ground reality of the girl at home and outside home it appears that, even education and financial independence have not helped women really enhancing their status vis-^-vis the status of men.

Let us analyze as to why this peculiar situation persists and how we should deal with it. My personal view is that the rise of women and the crime against women going hand in hand is a paradox but not difficult to understand.

It is very clear that, the men who have held the fort single handedly for centuries, would obviously not like to give up their importance, or even share it with women. It is they who resent this rise of the heads of women and so, before women rise to unchallengeable heights the ogre of man wants to crush them.

This he does by using his God gifted physical strength and it is this reason that, crimes against women are now on the rise. The woman who was earlier battered because she was considered a lesser being is now being battered, because she is potential challenge to man's unquestioned supremacy through past several centuries.

Thus, the position remains unchanged even after education and financial independence.

To my mind, there is no single package that could improve matters for the girl child/woman except that men change their attitude towards women. Unless men start regarding women as their equal partners, in the growth of humanity this differentiation between men and women shall continue unabated.

No single item of achievement like education, profession, legal rights or even the mixture of all these will work out a solution - the only feasible solution is the change of mind, the change of attitude of the men towards women. Till this is done, no amount of teaching, preaching or bargaining will help the girl child.

At this juncture when we talk of attitude, I must add that even women have to change their attitude towards the girl child/ women. At least partly women are themselves responsible for their position.

As women it is they who pamper their sons and husbands till they begin to believe that they are really superior beings. Let us all, men and women change our attitudes in this regard and, I am sure it will reap pleasant results.

We don't expect you to treat as Princess, but as Human.We don't want Roses and Poems, but Acceptance and Respect.

BIOLOGICAL DETERMINIST....

The terms' sex' and 'gender' mean different things to different feminist theories and neither are easy or straight forward to characterize. Sketching out some feminist history of the terms provides  a helpful starting point.

   

      Most people ordinarily seem to think that sex and gender are coextensive. Women are human females, men are human males.Many feminists have historically disgreed and have endorsed the sex or gender distinction.Provisionally : ' sex' denotes human females and males depending on biological features chromosome, sex organs, hormones, and other physical features. ' 'gender' denotes women and men depending on social factors such as social role , position, behavior, identity. The main feminist motivation for making this distinction was to counter biological determinism or the view that biology is destiny.

      A typical example of a biological determinist view is that of Genders and Thompson who,in 1889 ,argued that social,social, psychological, and behavioral traits were caused by metabolic state. Women supposedly conserve energy being' anabolic' and this makes them passive, conservative, sluggish, stable and uninterested in politics. Men expend their surplus energy (being 'katabolic') and this makes them eager, energetic, passionate,variable and thereby , interested in political and social matters. These biological 'facts'  about metabolic states were used not only to explain behavioural differences between women and men but also to justify what our social and political arrangements ought to be. More specifically, they were used to argue for withholding from women political rights accorded to men because (according to Geddes and Thompson) "what was decided among the prehistoric Protozoa cannot be annulled by Act of Parliament" . It would be inappropriate to grant women political rights, as they are simply not suited to have those rights; it would also be futile since women (due to their biology)would simply not be interested in exercising their political rights. To counter this kind of biological determinism, feminists have argued that behavioral and psychological differences have social, rather than biological causes. For instance , Someone's behavior famously claimed that one is not born , but rather becomes a woman and that "social discrimination produces in women moral and intellectual effects so profound that they appear to be caused by nature". Commonly observed behavioral traits associated  women and men , then are not caused by anatomy or chromosomes. Rather, they are culturally learned or acquired.

    Although biological determinism of the kind endorsed by Geddes and Thompson is nowadays uncommon , the idea that behavioral and psychological differences between women and men have biological causes has not disappeared. In 1970's, sex differences were used to argue that women shoulD not become airline pilots since they will be hormonally unstable once a month and therefore unable to perform their duties as well as men. More recently, differences in male and female brains have been said to explain behavioural differences; in particular the anatomy of corpus callosum , a bundle of nerves that connects the rights and left cerebral hemispheres, is thought to be responsible  various psychological and behavioral differences. For instance, in 1992, a Time magazine article surveyed then prominent biological explanations of differences between women and men claiming that women's thicker corpus callosums could explain what 'women's intuition' is based on and impair women's ability to perform some specialised visual-spatial skills , like reading maps.Anne Fausto - Sterling callosums cause behavioral and psychological differences. First, the corpus callosum is a highly variable piece of anatomy; as a result, generalisations about its size, shape and thickness that hold for women and men in general should be viewed with caution. Second, differences in adult human corpus callosums are not found in infants this may suggest that physical brain difference actually develop as responses to differential treatment. Third, given that visual-spatial skills can be improved by practice , even if women and men's corpus callosum differ  this does not make the resulting behavioral differences immutable. FEMINISTS ARE THE DETERMINISTS.

NIP IN THE BUD

 We hear disturbing stories like: an acid attack victim fights for life; another loses her eye sight; a tiny tot of just five raped and tortured; a three year old girl hurt badly with bites and wounds all over the body; a twenty-three year old gang-raped, and so on. Granted that these are abnormal acts and call for psychological treatment of the man but one cannot just let go such inhuman acts under the excuse of psychological aberrations. These are social ills and need to be corrected if we want a healthy society.

Women are vulnerable, yes! But that does not mean they should be treated shabbily for their gender. The fear generated by sexual attacks has been summed up by a writer thus, “Every time I close my eyes the nightmares come, they attack me over and over and over again until dawn. He is strong, I am weak, he has all the power, I have none. I am like a puppet in his hands.” This feeling of utter helplessness leads to depression, fear and trauma.

Despite stringent laws on paper, crimes against women are on the increase. The reasons should be searched in the society and community. Statements like “zero tolerance”, “nation is shamed”, or comments on women’s dressing-up are meaningless and cannot solve this multi-faceted problem which needs an over-all shake-up of the social psyche.

·       Patriarchal mind-set which sees woman as an object of desire, as man’s possession, as a weakling who can be treated as per one’s will is the first cause to continue violence. Intensive training and exposure to gender sensitization and the fear of severe punishment are needed.

·       Secondly, globalization and consumer values have tilted our basic value system, and pleasures of the flesh have gained an upper hand over the values of propriety and impropriety. Woman who comes out of the home is belittled as “easily available.” The male members must understand that women are human too and have right to freedom of choice.

·       Thirdly, the fear of law has diminished, the law enforcing machinery having lost their credibility in the wake of corruption rampant in the society. The new mind set seems to say, “oh, chalta hai. Kar lenge manage.”

Girls and women need to be alert too; they must break their silence. As feminist Paula Fordham asserts, “We have been silenced by shame and fear. We have been silenced by those who are supposed to protect us. It is time that we are heard.” So far, violence against women was a hush-hush affair for fear of shame and social stigma but if we want remedy, we must speak out. The woman need not hide; it is the criminal who should hide for shame.

Bhanwari Devi spoke out and her famous “Vishakha case” became instrumental in framing law against work place harassment. Mukhtar Mai of Pakistan came out with her story of gang rape despite threats and brought in major changes.

Mazumdar says that acid attacks, though not fatal, are worse than murder, and should be judged and punished as a special category. Victims are condemned to living out a life sentence behind dark glasses and veils, subjects of pity – initially – and, later, disgust, loathing and revulsion.
Recall Kafka`s “Metamorphosis”.
Prison sentences for perpetrators amount to denial of justice if one were to go by the principle that  ” the severity of punishment should match the heinousness of the crime”. What is a few years of imprisonment as compared to the living hell which their victims are doomed to endure for the rest of their lives ?
The principle of Lex Talionis ( an Eye for an Eye ) richly deserves to be invoked, condemning the attackers to the same fate as their victims by administration of acid in identical areas.
That would probably serve the ends of justice, and act as an effective deterrent.

Violence against women is pervasive and needs concentrated efforts to eliminate it. Law can act as a deterrent but awareness can lead towards amelioration. The media can play a powerful role to sensitize the society. Men must know that women’s equality does not snatch away men’s rights, nor is it meant to start a battle between man and woman. It simply means giving women their due, to recognize their special potentials and qualities and ensure respect for them.

Few people start with rape or acid attack or murder. It starts with a small boundary-violation. A sexually charged inappropriate comment. Staring that goes beyond what's polite. Objectifying statements that are left unopposed and so on.

It's only when people learn (from those around them) that these small transgressions are acceptable, and perhaps even cool, that a subset are emboldened to take one more step, and one more, until the end-result is sexual harassment, sexual assault and rape.

A million cat-calls turn into 10000 gropings turn into 100 rapes and murders.

The best cure is to nip it in the bud early. Years before rape happens.

The guy on the street who shouts "Hi sexy !" after a single woman who pass, he'd stop doing that pretty soon if his friends clearly indicated that such behaviour ain't welcome. "Hi, cut it out, it's embarassing, don't be an idiot." But if instead, they are supportive and treat him as if he did something cool, he's very likely to do it again, and there's a risk it will escalate from there.

Everyone focus on the horrible stuff: the rapes and murders. That's where it ends. But it's not where it starts.

It starts with "Hi sexy !"