NOT AN END , BUT A CLOSE......ITS OUR ENDLESSS FLY

BEFORE CLOSE....WHY? WHY THIS?

"FEMINISM".... WHY NO   "MALENISM"  ????
 A topic or a issue arises, not without  reasons but it takes shapes because there is something wrong ,and true that the problem exist.  There is a topic, subject, course on  FEMINISM , means  something unjust is there.. But no word for MALENISM.

Its a my kind obligation to end our journey. We have not pressed stop button in the remote but paused it. Because by ending the blog , doesn't`t mean that we  have halted our fly. It doesn't`t mean we have finished our duty, our flow of thoughts has come to end and we explore no more. If that's the pre assumption of someone who sees the title, sorry we are not and won`t . We have lots to encounter in this life, a combination of, joy and sorrows.  But we swear that we will never give way for our personal troubles to stop our fly, till we get a permanent answer and change.

SO ITS PLEASURE FOR ME TO INTRODUCE ALL THE CASSOWARIES, THRIVING TO SWOOP BY DUSTING THE CLINCHES IN OUR WINGS.....
 

KEERTHANA SATHISH KUMAR
         
                  A GIRL OF HER OWN,
           GIVES NO WAY FOR ANY MASTERING DON,

           HER THOUGTS ALWAYS GO BEFORE HER

          A THIN BOOK, WITH LOTS OF QUESTION
            HER THINKING CAN BEGET A NEW NATION!!!


A. NIVETHA

             A  NEW, IN A CREW
          SHE IS SHORT, NOT SO HER THOUGHTS
         NAMED AS GOOD
        NOT EASY FOR HER TO NOD

POORNIMA SHANKARI


         A DOER TO OUR FLY
     BUT COMES TO WRONG, HESITATE TO SHY

    GOOD WRITER, PROVED THE SAME AS BLOGGER

    SHE GOES AND GOES , FEAR IS NOT HER BED
   HER  VOICE NEVER END


SATHYA PRIYA


SHE IS STRONG AS HER VOICE
HER VOICE, IS NOT TO HAVE NOISE

A GIRL OF COURAGE, IS SHE

HER WORLD IS AROUND THE FOUR  WALL, HER HOUSE
BUT NOT SO HER NOTIONS


VAANI

A GIRL FOR SILENCE
 NOT IN WRITING

SHE SPEAKS LESS, MAKES SURE , HER WORDS HAVE AN IMPACT

HER VOICE IS LOW
SHE IS A FEMINIST SPARROW.


SO, TIME TO WAVE OUR HANDS....
WE SWEAR TO WAVE OUR WINGS ALWAYS. WE PAUSE ANTICIPATING A CHANGE, WAITING FOR THE SEVENTH HEAVEN


A HEARTLY THANKS TO ALL OUR VIEWERS AND SUSCRIBERS FOR TAKING A LOOK AT OUR FIRST START. THANKS FOR ALL YOUR COMMENTS, SUGGESTIONS AND COMPLIMENTS.
    
     WE ARE THANKFUL TO YOUR COMPLIMENTS
   AND WILL WORK ON, ABOUT YOUR  CRITICISM


BYE!!BYE      NOT AN END, WE START , SO ALL WITH US FOR THE
                       
               ENDLESS  FLY!!!!!!

     

       


            
 

Please alter your attitude and accept

After these many days of listing our issues and displaying the darker side of society I would like to end by suggesting some solutions that stepped up in my mind.

The present scenario in which the girl child is mercilessly killed even before birth, does not speak too well about the fate of this species. The scenario is so varied that, it is really difficult to understand what we are really doing or trying to do in this regard.

On the one hand we see girls entering in the fields of all kinds of professions holding senior positions in offices, becoming engineers, doctors, managers etc. We are obviously impressed and are likely to believe that, the position of the girl is now after all not too bad.

However, the complexity of the problem becomes malicious when we see that, together with girls entering professions there is a simultaneous and continuous rise in the graph of crimes against women. Why and how do these two sides of the same problem co-relate, is a mind-boggling situation.

This situation is true of the urban area where education and freedom is given to girls - to a great extent, but even this growth of this class does not really bear any testimony to the equality of girls with boys.

The rural areas consisting of the major chunk of the Indian population see no - yes absolutely no change in the general attitude towards girls. In the villages, girls are not sent to schools and, if at all they are, they drop out after their Higher secondary.

Here, the myth still remains that, education is useless for girls - they have to concentrate on house work, child bearing and child bringing up all through life - and all this, it is believed needs no education. The village people are hard to convince that education of women is as important if not more important than the education of men.

In the village, the girl child has no say in anything in the home, not even things of her own concern - she is, even to-day in the 21st Century treated as an object to be used instead of an individual human being with all the ingredients of human beings - like her counterparts - the boy.

She, even today remains to have the status of an object to be used or dispensed with at the whims and fancies of her male family members. With this psyche of the average Indian adult, I personally see no light at the end of the dark tunnel.

In my view, even for the urban areas, the prospects of the girl child are not too bright as, even while women are acquiring status and positions in the office - firstly, they do not get the respect the male counterparts get in the offices.

Besides no matter what status a woman may achieve outside home, inside the home she, by and large remains a chattel. When this is the ground reality of the girl at home and outside home it appears that, even education and financial independence have not helped women really enhancing their status vis-^-vis the status of men.

Let us analyze as to why this peculiar situation persists and how we should deal with it. My personal view is that the rise of women and the crime against women going hand in hand is a paradox but not difficult to understand.

It is very clear that, the men who have held the fort single handedly for centuries, would obviously not like to give up their importance, or even share it with women. It is they who resent this rise of the heads of women and so, before women rise to unchallengeable heights the ogre of man wants to crush them.

This he does by using his God gifted physical strength and it is this reason that, crimes against women are now on the rise. The woman who was earlier battered because she was considered a lesser being is now being battered, because she is potential challenge to man's unquestioned supremacy through past several centuries.

Thus, the position remains unchanged even after education and financial independence.

To my mind, there is no single package that could improve matters for the girl child/woman except that men change their attitude towards women. Unless men start regarding women as their equal partners, in the growth of humanity this differentiation between men and women shall continue unabated.

No single item of achievement like education, profession, legal rights or even the mixture of all these will work out a solution - the only feasible solution is the change of mind, the change of attitude of the men towards women. Till this is done, no amount of teaching, preaching or bargaining will help the girl child.

At this juncture when we talk of attitude, I must add that even women have to change their attitude towards the girl child/ women. At least partly women are themselves responsible for their position.

As women it is they who pamper their sons and husbands till they begin to believe that they are really superior beings. Let us all, men and women change our attitudes in this regard and, I am sure it will reap pleasant results.

We don't expect you to treat as Princess, but as Human.We don't want Roses and Poems, but Acceptance and Respect.

BIOLOGICAL DETERMINIST....

The terms' sex' and 'gender' mean different things to different feminist theories and neither are easy or straight forward to characterize. Sketching out some feminist history of the terms provides  a helpful starting point.

   

      Most people ordinarily seem to think that sex and gender are coextensive. Women are human females, men are human males.Many feminists have historically disgreed and have endorsed the sex or gender distinction.Provisionally : ' sex' denotes human females and males depending on biological features chromosome, sex organs, hormones, and other physical features. ' 'gender' denotes women and men depending on social factors such as social role , position, behavior, identity. The main feminist motivation for making this distinction was to counter biological determinism or the view that biology is destiny.

      A typical example of a biological determinist view is that of Genders and Thompson who,in 1889 ,argued that social,social, psychological, and behavioral traits were caused by metabolic state. Women supposedly conserve energy being' anabolic' and this makes them passive, conservative, sluggish, stable and uninterested in politics. Men expend their surplus energy (being 'katabolic') and this makes them eager, energetic, passionate,variable and thereby , interested in political and social matters. These biological 'facts'  about metabolic states were used not only to explain behavioural differences between women and men but also to justify what our social and political arrangements ought to be. More specifically, they were used to argue for withholding from women political rights accorded to men because (according to Geddes and Thompson) "what was decided among the prehistoric Protozoa cannot be annulled by Act of Parliament" . It would be inappropriate to grant women political rights, as they are simply not suited to have those rights; it would also be futile since women (due to their biology)would simply not be interested in exercising their political rights. To counter this kind of biological determinism, feminists have argued that behavioral and psychological differences have social, rather than biological causes. For instance , Someone's behavior famously claimed that one is not born , but rather becomes a woman and that "social discrimination produces in women moral and intellectual effects so profound that they appear to be caused by nature". Commonly observed behavioral traits associated  women and men , then are not caused by anatomy or chromosomes. Rather, they are culturally learned or acquired.

    Although biological determinism of the kind endorsed by Geddes and Thompson is nowadays uncommon , the idea that behavioral and psychological differences between women and men have biological causes has not disappeared. In 1970's, sex differences were used to argue that women shoulD not become airline pilots since they will be hormonally unstable once a month and therefore unable to perform their duties as well as men. More recently, differences in male and female brains have been said to explain behavioural differences; in particular the anatomy of corpus callosum , a bundle of nerves that connects the rights and left cerebral hemispheres, is thought to be responsible  various psychological and behavioral differences. For instance, in 1992, a Time magazine article surveyed then prominent biological explanations of differences between women and men claiming that women's thicker corpus callosums could explain what 'women's intuition' is based on and impair women's ability to perform some specialised visual-spatial skills , like reading maps.Anne Fausto - Sterling callosums cause behavioral and psychological differences. First, the corpus callosum is a highly variable piece of anatomy; as a result, generalisations about its size, shape and thickness that hold for women and men in general should be viewed with caution. Second, differences in adult human corpus callosums are not found in infants this may suggest that physical brain difference actually develop as responses to differential treatment. Third, given that visual-spatial skills can be improved by practice , even if women and men's corpus callosum differ  this does not make the resulting behavioral differences immutable. FEMINISTS ARE THE DETERMINISTS.

NIP IN THE BUD

 We hear disturbing stories like: an acid attack victim fights for life; another loses her eye sight; a tiny tot of just five raped and tortured; a three year old girl hurt badly with bites and wounds all over the body; a twenty-three year old gang-raped, and so on. Granted that these are abnormal acts and call for psychological treatment of the man but one cannot just let go such inhuman acts under the excuse of psychological aberrations. These are social ills and need to be corrected if we want a healthy society.

Women are vulnerable, yes! But that does not mean they should be treated shabbily for their gender. The fear generated by sexual attacks has been summed up by a writer thus, “Every time I close my eyes the nightmares come, they attack me over and over and over again until dawn. He is strong, I am weak, he has all the power, I have none. I am like a puppet in his hands.” This feeling of utter helplessness leads to depression, fear and trauma.

Despite stringent laws on paper, crimes against women are on the increase. The reasons should be searched in the society and community. Statements like “zero tolerance”, “nation is shamed”, or comments on women’s dressing-up are meaningless and cannot solve this multi-faceted problem which needs an over-all shake-up of the social psyche.

·       Patriarchal mind-set which sees woman as an object of desire, as man’s possession, as a weakling who can be treated as per one’s will is the first cause to continue violence. Intensive training and exposure to gender sensitization and the fear of severe punishment are needed.

·       Secondly, globalization and consumer values have tilted our basic value system, and pleasures of the flesh have gained an upper hand over the values of propriety and impropriety. Woman who comes out of the home is belittled as “easily available.” The male members must understand that women are human too and have right to freedom of choice.

·       Thirdly, the fear of law has diminished, the law enforcing machinery having lost their credibility in the wake of corruption rampant in the society. The new mind set seems to say, “oh, chalta hai. Kar lenge manage.”

Girls and women need to be alert too; they must break their silence. As feminist Paula Fordham asserts, “We have been silenced by shame and fear. We have been silenced by those who are supposed to protect us. It is time that we are heard.” So far, violence against women was a hush-hush affair for fear of shame and social stigma but if we want remedy, we must speak out. The woman need not hide; it is the criminal who should hide for shame.

Bhanwari Devi spoke out and her famous “Vishakha case” became instrumental in framing law against work place harassment. Mukhtar Mai of Pakistan came out with her story of gang rape despite threats and brought in major changes.

Mazumdar says that acid attacks, though not fatal, are worse than murder, and should be judged and punished as a special category. Victims are condemned to living out a life sentence behind dark glasses and veils, subjects of pity – initially – and, later, disgust, loathing and revulsion.
Recall Kafka`s “Metamorphosis”.
Prison sentences for perpetrators amount to denial of justice if one were to go by the principle that  ” the severity of punishment should match the heinousness of the crime”. What is a few years of imprisonment as compared to the living hell which their victims are doomed to endure for the rest of their lives ?
The principle of Lex Talionis ( an Eye for an Eye ) richly deserves to be invoked, condemning the attackers to the same fate as their victims by administration of acid in identical areas.
That would probably serve the ends of justice, and act as an effective deterrent.

Violence against women is pervasive and needs concentrated efforts to eliminate it. Law can act as a deterrent but awareness can lead towards amelioration. The media can play a powerful role to sensitize the society. Men must know that women’s equality does not snatch away men’s rights, nor is it meant to start a battle between man and woman. It simply means giving women their due, to recognize their special potentials and qualities and ensure respect for them.

Few people start with rape or acid attack or murder. It starts with a small boundary-violation. A sexually charged inappropriate comment. Staring that goes beyond what's polite. Objectifying statements that are left unopposed and so on.

It's only when people learn (from those around them) that these small transgressions are acceptable, and perhaps even cool, that a subset are emboldened to take one more step, and one more, until the end-result is sexual harassment, sexual assault and rape.

A million cat-calls turn into 10000 gropings turn into 100 rapes and murders.

The best cure is to nip it in the bud early. Years before rape happens.

The guy on the street who shouts "Hi sexy !" after a single woman who pass, he'd stop doing that pretty soon if his friends clearly indicated that such behaviour ain't welcome. "Hi, cut it out, it's embarassing, don't be an idiot." But if instead, they are supportive and treat him as if he did something cool, he's very likely to do it again, and there's a risk it will escalate from there.

Everyone focus on the horrible stuff: the rapes and murders. That's where it ends. But it's not where it starts.

It starts with "Hi sexy !" 

HYDRA HEADED MONSTERS

Violence is a lived reality of a woman’s life that she alone experiences, suffers and endures. No amount of words can explain the pain and terror it causes because it is an experience that is personal. In a short story entitled “It was Dark” by Shashi Deshpande, a nine year old raped girl is in shock and when asked about the incident she can only repeat “it was dark”. This darkness is the subjective experience of every traumatized woman who falls a victim to violence be it sexual, domestic or social.

Violence against women is a hydra-headed monster that refuses to listen to reason; it is not intimidated by law; it refuses to make a retreat and that is why we need multi-pronged approaches to eliminate it. Violence, aggression and cruelty, wife bashing, rapes, acid attacks, murders and torture – indeed, this surfeit of violence is becoming more complex and manifest day by day. What reaches us is far less than what actually takes place and goes unreported.

Violence starts in the womb when a girl child is eliminated as a foetus. If she stays on to be born, she falls a prey to infanticide. Amartya Sen’s words “missing women” explains much more than the mere horror of it. Nothing can be more shameful than such acts of cruelty. Looking at the gravity of the situation, the central and state governments have started campaigns like “Beti bacho,” “beti anmol hai” and “save the girl child”. These campaigns have started showing positive results in improving the male-female ratio in many states including Himachal Pradesh.

Domestic violence which happens in the “private sphere” is difficult to track unless reported by the aggrieved party. “The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005” addresses most of the concerns relating to gender based violence. Domestic violence has been defined as any act that causes harm, injury or threat to the life, safety and well-being of a person. Under it physical, verbal, emotional, economic or sexual violence are covered and take into cognisance physical injury, psychological problems and economic inconveniences. The Act has provisions for quick and easy remedy, compensation and other relief measures.

One of the most saddening and frightening violence against women is of sexual nature under which rape, acid attacks, molestation and stalking are included. 

 Are girls any safer on our streets now? Does your sister, mother or daughter feel comfortable going out at night wearing whatever she likes? Have you been abroad? Have you ever felt how different you feel when walk with/as a girl outside India? We are nowhere close to that standard when it comes to safety for women. Rape is a bigger problem than anyone could have imagined, and has many affects and can actually destroy the life of its victims.

Rape is a crime that not only takes hurts someone for the moment, but it shatters their entire life. Most women never fully recover from being a victim of rape. It is a crime of sexual violence that causes long term emotional devastion in its victims. It is a community issue, and it is never the victims' fault.  

·        There are different types of rape, aquaintance and stranger rape. Aquaintance rape is rape by someone the victim knows and comprises eighty-four percent of total rapes. Fifty-seven percent of rapes take place during a date and fourty-three percent involve two or more perpetrators. Women who fight back and fight back immediately are less likely to be raped than women who did not. People are five times more likely to be raped by someone they know than a stranger.

·        Stranger rape is estimated to make up twenty to fifty percent of rapes each year.

·        Incest is also a form of rape, which is when a relative rapes a person

 There are 570 million women in India. Average longevity in India is about 70 years.If 5% of Indian women experienced a single rape in their lifetime (this would be low by international standards) then that adds up to 57 million rapes in a period of 70 years ,or an average rate of one rape every 90 seconds. Even this rate is probably much too low, because 5% is low, because some men are also raped, and because some people are raped more than once in their life. 

Nobody knows the true number, but every 10 seconds is more plausible than every 54 minutes...

In 2001, nine out of every ten rape victims were female. In 2001, there were 249,000 victims of rape, attempted rape or sexual assault. Of these 249,000, there were 102,000 victims of sexual assault, 63,000 were victims of attempted rape, and 84,000 were the victims of complete rape. One in two victims are under the age of eighteen.There are so many rape cases in india , because we refuse to admit it when there is one! The top answer goes on a long diatribe trying to "prove" the point by comparing it with a country with an even more number of rapes - just great! It refuses to even acknowledge that a vast majority of rapes go unreported in our country.

·        The ‘Study on Child Abuse India 2007’ revealed that more than 53% of children in India have probably been sexually abused and many have never shared the fact of this abuse with anyone. 

·        It is estimated that 150 million girls under 18 have been subjected to forced sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual violence

·        In India, marital rape is not even considered as a crime! This places India in the company of a handful of reputable countries including China, Afghanistan, Pakistan and Saudi Arabia. Do you think even if we change the law-  any Indian women would dare to complain if her husband rapes her everyday?

In fact the issue of "marital rape" was brought in front of our esteemed law-makers, who rejected it in a report which argued:

it “has the potential of destroying the institution of marriage,”

“If marital rape is brought under the law, the entire family system will be under great stress,” adds the report.

"A new study has revealed 26 per cent of women in Pune, 23 per cent in Bhubaneswar and 16 per cent in Jaipur often have sex with husbands against their desire."

Rape is the most unreported crime. It has been estimated that ninety percent of all rapes go unreported because of legal procedures and the painful hospital exams. Women fear rape more than any other offense including murder, assault, and robbery, and they report levels of fear three times higher than mens.

Rape will be a problem and will remain a problem as long as we try to cover it up.

If food is rotten in your house, will you just cover it up, spray some perfume and proclaim everything is good? Of course not. Let's acknowledge the problem and throw it out instead of blaming the "Western Media" of "fabricating a rape-crisis"!

HORRIFIC CRIME

          In less than three years, Tamil Nadu has witnessed 81 incidents of honour killings. Though honour killings are on the rise, not a single case has ended up in conviction in the state as family members are involved in such murders. In an attempt to cover up incidents of honour killings, the Tamil Nadu government dismisses incidents of honour killings and is one among the few states that has not submitted its report on it to the Supreme Court.

“As many as 22 states have given details on honour killings to the apex court,” he said, adding, that most cases of honour killings are merely passed off as suicides.

Of the 81 incidents of honour killings, 80 per cent of victims are women and 20 per cent are men.

“Caste Hindu women, who love or marry a Dalit are murdered by their family members. On the other hand Dalit women, who marry caste Hindu men, are ditched due to societal pressure. Almost 84 per cent of Dalit women, who are into inter-caste marriage face humiliation due to marital discord. Hence in both the cases it is woman who has been swayed. This is a horrific reminder of how caste and family honour continue to be prized over women's lives in world.

a 21-year-old student of Delhi University's Sri Venkateswara College was allegedly murdered by her parents for marrying her boyfriend against their wishes. The reason for her killing: the girl Bhavna had secretly married Abhishek, a boy from a different caste.

Nirupama Pathak murder of 2010:In May 2010, Nirupama Pathak, who was working as journalist with a business daily in Delhi, was murdered by her family in Jharkhand because she was in a relationship with a man from a lower caste.

Asha Saini murder case of 2010:In June 2010, Delhi witnessed a brutal honour killing in Swarup Nagar in North-east part of the city, when 19-year-old Asha Saini and her boyfriend Yogesh, 20, were tortured, electrocuted and beaten to death by the girl's family.As this Rediff report recounts, "the girl's family had disapproved of Asha's relationship with Yogesh, a driver, and had asked the boy to back off.The couple was tortured in a flat owned by the girl's uncle Omprakash and even neighbours who heard the couple wailing for hours and begging for help but didn't step in to help. Allegedly the family threatened the neighbours and told them to "mind their own business," says the report.

Monica and Kuldeep Murder of 2010:Another honour killing hit the headlines in Delhi in June 2010 when a couple, Monica and Kuldeep, along with Monica's sister Shobha were killed by their family members.Monica had married Kuldeep, who was a Rajput boy, and their families did not approve of the alliance. Both of them belonged to the Wazipur village of Delhi. Shobha on the other hand was involved in a relationship with a boy belonging to another caste and had reportedly helped her sister elope

Deepti Chhikara murder of 2012: In June 2012, reports came out that a young woman Deepti Chhikara was killed, and her body was then dumped in Uttarakhand. The girl, who was a school teacher at an MCD school, was strangled to death by her mother Birmati and brother Mohit, and later her uncle Amit helped the duo in disposing of the body

 June 1,  2015.Bulandshahr: Mother arrested for killing her daughterAfroz, 20, from abda village in Bulandshahr was killed by her own mother Rubina after she refused to give up her relationship with a boy

April 7, 2015, Chandigarh: Bodies of couple dumped in suitcases Bahalgarh police received a call regarding two unclaimed suitcases lying in a park, located on the GT road in Sonipat district. When the suitcases were opened, police recovered the naked bodies of a man and woman dumped separately in the two suitcases. While the woman's body was intact and she wore glass bangles similar to those of a newlywed bride

February 15,2015, Lucknow : 16-year-old girl murderedThe police are looking into the possibility of honour killing in the murder case of a minor girl in Kotwali area of Gonda district. The fact that the girl's family did not inform the police about the murder made the police suspicious. The girl, who had left home to relieve herself, was found dead after half an hour.

February 13,2015. Mathura: Girl burnt to death by mother and brother Neeraj Kumari's family was against her relationship with a youth from the same village, Ajay, and fixed her marriage with another person. As complications cropped up for the marriage, the mother and the brother first strangulated Kumari and then set her body on fire.

Pakistan's double-Oscar winner Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy has hailed new legislation outlawing the crime of 'honour killings' as a turning point in the long- battle on violence against women, as she sets her sights on conquering her country's silver screen.

The filmmaker cast a spotlight on the issue with her documentary A Girl In The River: The Price of Forgiveness - which bagged an Academy Award earlier this year. "It is very good in the case of honour killing we finally have a legislation that is stronger," she says.

In October, Pakistan's government passed legislation aimed at closing loopholes that allowed the perpetrators of such killings, often relatives of the victim, to walk free after they are pardoned by another member of their family. Now a pardon can only save a killer from the death penalty, but not from life imprisonment

25-year-old Qandeel was found strangled in her house in Multan, some 350km from Lahore, on July 16. Her father had alleged that she was killed by her younger brother, Waseem, in the name of honour. Waseem had confessed to having killed his sister 'in the name of honour'.

In his confession video, Waseem expressed no regret in killing his sister. "I am proud of what I did. I drugged her first then I killed her. She was bringing dishonour to our family," Waseem said.

Qandeel rose to fame due to her bold videos and pictures many considered as 'obscene' she posted on her Facebook account. Honour killing is common in Pakistan and every year hundreds of women are killed by male relatives for allegedly dishonouring the family.

Each and every individual has the right to live his or her own life according to their own wishes. After attaining the age of 18 and 21 by the girl and the boy respectively, the family has no right to force them into marriage or any other act if they are unwilling to do so. If an individual be it a boy or a girl feels that he or she wants to marry according to their wishes, their parents should accept the wishes.

In fact, parents only desire to see their children happy and if the children are happy, the parents should let them do what they desire. But for a number of families, their status and position in the society is so much more important than their kids that they do not mind killing them or sacrificing them just to maintain their desired status.Only one question comes into the mind of all the people- Is the society more important than your children? When asked all will say that their children are more important. But in some of the cases the reality is totally different. These people who kill their children for the breach of so called code of conduct of their societies are actually only concerned about their status and position in the society.

Such people can be termed as criminals who are far more dangerous than the terrorists. Terrorists kill people who are unknown to them. But these people who support honour killing and are a part of it are heartless because only a heartless individual can kill someone they love and that too for a baseless reason.

The government of India has formulated laws against honour killing but still this inhuman practice exists. In my opinion people involved in honour killing should also be treated as criminals and should be punished as severely as possible.

WHY SOCIETY NEEDS FEMINISM......

It's not about telling women what they need... We need feminism because people are still blindly agreeing that women don't need to be paid for the same work as men, that they are okay with the indifference and injustices so ingrained in society that they have accepted it as a way of life.

Feminism are not angry lesbians who hate men. Feminists do not believe women are better than men,or that women deserve special privileges.They do not believe women are victims.

In order to be a considered a feminist, you only need to be on board with one idea: All humans, male and female, should have equal political, economic, and social rights.

Although more and more people are beginning to understand the true definition of feminism and openly identifying with it, there has always been a negative stigma attached to it. Part of this problem is the way our media sensationalizes things, trying to pass the most radical and extreme version as the standard which,in this case, depicts a feminist as a man- hater who hates lipstick, crinkles  her nose at stay at home moms , and unapologetically supports abortions on demand.

It's these false assumptions that cause anti- feminist campaigns, such as the recent " women Against Feminism" which consists of people posting photos of themselves with statements such as:  " I don't need feminism bI don't choose to ignore the fact that men have issues too" and " I don't need feminism because I already have equal rights " Reading through the majority of these posts quickly brings forth a glaringly obvious problem: how misguided too many people still are about what being a feminist actually means.

As Lena Dunham pointed out,  " Feminism isn't  a dirty word. It's not like we're a deranged group who think women should take over the planet, raise our young on our own and eliminate men from the picture."

Being a feminist has nothing to do with how you look, what you wear,who you date, or how often you have sex. Being a feminist doesn't mean you think women deserve special rights.It means you know that we deserve equal ones.

While a primary purpose of feminism is to empower women, it does mean feminists view all women as weak and oppressed. Feminists are not aiming to make women stronger.They already know they are strong. They just want society to see that too.

Empowering women does not mean belittling or punishing men.Men,too.suffer from gender role assumptions that place expectations upon them to live and act a certain way.Feminists believe each person should be viewed based on their individual strengths and capabilities as a human being , not the strengths and capabilities assumed of their gender. They believe every person should be treated equally not because of gender, but in spite of it.

There are some people who believe that feminism is a thing of the past that we don't need it anymore because the patriarchal system no longer exists.After all, we can vote, right? That's true. In fact, in all demographics, females vote more than men. Yet, women still Congress even though they make up more than half the population. Some believe the patriarchal system doesn't exist because we have equal employment opportunities . But if this were really the case would there still be a 23 percent.

If you are a feminist, you believe women should be treated the same men, not because we are better, but because we are human ......

IT IS NOT A GENDER ISSUE IT IS A HUMANITY ISSUE.........

IT'S TIME WE TALKED ABOUT FEMINISM..... PROPERLY

Feminism.It seems like that word has become rescue. With so many negative connotations,and hateful synonyms, it's no wonder why our generation does not want to labelled as a feminist.But let's cut the crab, and get down to what feminism is really about.

Feminism,as defined by the dictionary,is " the theory of political,economic,and social equality of the sexes ....the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities".Now lets get one thing straight off the bat, the definition of feminism has not changed. The feminist movement,is still the movement towards equality for all genders; men,women.

For whatever reason,anti- feminists,people who do not believe in equality for all genders,have tired,and been somewhat successful in re- creating the meaning of this term.This new meaning has become synonymous with man hating.If you think about it,this literally makes no sense at all and I have no idea how this trend even look off. If to be a feminist means you are a " man- hater ", then ,at most,you only support one of the sexes,and since feminism is about equality of sexes,then by definition,you are not a feminist.The definition itself boycotts this entire argument! Yet,for some reason, pdple are still buying into it.

Now many people  have an issue with  it being called feminism, and I don't blame you for that in fact until recently I felt the same way. However, I recently watched a video on YouTube that changed perspective. The man who created this video explained that it is called feminism, for the same reason gay rights are called Gay rights and not Human Rights. Gay rights are called Gay rights because we need to bring gay rights upto the normal standard for human rights.  If, and when, gay people finally receive the treatment as straight people only then will it be called human rights feminism is the same thing.We call it feminism, because female are the ones whose rights need to be brought up to the standards of men then congratulations you' re feminist.

To say you are not a feminist is literally the same as saying you don't agree with the things above.To you're not a feminist is to say you agree with a women earning, on average 0.71 dollars for every 1.00 dollar a man earns in Canada .To say you are not a feminist, it to say you believe" real  men are only those that possess " masculine qualities. To say you are not a feminist is to say you're okay with the fact that women are still forced to marry their rapists in some countries. To say you're not a feminist is to say that boys are who are bullied,often to the point of suicide for being to " feminine" should just suck. To say you're not a feminist is to say you accept the statistic that one in five girls,and one in Sevan boys ,will. be sexully assaulted in their life time.

Because of this reason, and many others, lately the majority focus of feminism talks and articles has been onwomen, and that's because women have been on the receiving side of the majority of equality incoherence.Buy why don't we talk about men?. Feminism support men saying at home raising their children that is what they want to do, or what is the best for their family. Feminism supports women treating men with respect. Feminism supports men getting paid paternity leave so they can stay home with their new born child. Feminism supports men being vulnerable, sensitive,strong, touch,or whatever they want to be. Feminism supports men.Feminism supports people. There is a common myth that men can't be feminist, but if you're a men who believes in the equality of men and women, if you believe your sister should make as much Money as you, if you believe you should get as much credit for raising your children as the mother of your children thus . To say you are not a feminist is to say you don't believe in quality, and that is the fact.Of course everyone is entitled to his / her own believes , and I am not here to tell you that you have to be a feminist. Instead,I am trying to help educate you on what being a feminist truly mean,because my bet is if people really understood the true meaning of feminism, we would have a lot more men and women identifing as FEMINIST.......

BEING A FEMINIST......

1.Being a feminist doesn't mean you believe all men are rapists. This quote comes from a book by Marilyn  French and it seems to be recited more by anti feminists as a means of  debunking feminism than feminists themselves. It's simply a rediculous statement that's been given a rediculous amount of airtime.                                                                                      2.Being a feminist doesn't mean you think all men are evil. Following up on the last point, a lot of any feminist folks make the argument that feminist believe all men are evil. This is not true.

3.Being a feminist doesn't mean you blame  every indidual  man. You known  for  hundreds of years of oppressive behavior .just like you wouldn,t point at a random white Person today and blame them for salary, you can't blame an individual man today for a history of sexism.

A lot of people think about the things about the things above, think about the men they know or, if they are men, they think about themselves, and think that's ridiculous,_isnt an evil rapists who is responsible for hundreds of years of sexism.

A lot of people are right.

The thing feminism thinks is bad is the hundreds of years of sexism part, as well as the existence of sexism today. Sexism that a lot of men engage in and a lot of women internalize.

Men engage in sexism because they've been taught to behave that way. Women internalize it for the same reason.

Feminism asks both men and women to critically think about those normalized behavior and it's impact , and holds people accountable to sexist thinking and behavior even if they didn't initially realized it was sexist.

So yes, it's natural to get defensive when someone brings up feminist issues because it's likely you never thought you were doing anything wrong. Does that make sexist behavior acceptable? NO.

That's why we need to do a better job as a society to teach people how to treat people each other with equity.That's what feminism trying to do here.

4. Because some feminists aren't willing to address men's issues though some are

Working towards gender equity means equity for all genders,right?Then what about men? And what about trans folks? This is a question that often gets raised by men

Feminism in general has mixed feelings about addressing men's and women's issues.

Like why young men today are likely to graduate from college,attain a high GPA ,be active in extracurricular organizations or seek leadership roles.or why men in general have always been more likely to be caught up in the criminal justice system or be homeless.These are real issues,surely ,and things our society should work to correct.

But do many feminists ignore these issues because they hate men?No.

The mixed feelings about addressing men's issues tend to stem from the fact that"men's issues" tends to be the default in our society.We are a male dominant society.

Many feminists are concerned that addressing men's issues or gender issues as a broad goal will move the conservation completely away from women's issues,resulting in no progress for the women's part of the gender progress.

So instead they focus on women's issues and allow others to focus on other issues.Many feminists would like to see pro- feminist men tackle men's issues in a way that doesn't blame women and feminism for all their problems.

However, it's worth nothing that we here at Everyday Feminism are both men and women.We take an intersectional approach to feminism and look at how different groups of genders, sexual orientations, races,classes, and more are dominated in our society.Our inclusive approach is a big part of our popularity a lot of feminists are also inclusive.

5. Because sensationalism is  a good way to distract from real issues

It's pretty messed up that being born a certain way means you're going to be less likely to earn as much much money, achieve the same tier of success, be treated with respect and fairness,be elected into political office... but those restrictions are objectively measurable.

Those issues mentioned above affect just about every identity group in the US other than people who are white and male

Instead of dealing with inequality and giving up a bit of unearned power, it's far more fruitful to change the conversation and put the oppressed group on the defensive.Being a feminist.....

FIVE MAIN ISSUES BASED ON FEMINISM

Despite our collective achievements, sexism today can seem an insurmountable obstacle. These are the fronts we are fighting on.

1. The Division of Domestic Labour

Otherwise known as "the final feminist frontier", we actually see it more as the first, because without this one down, gender equality is pretty much a no-go. Our feminist foremothers succeeded in getting some women out of the kitchen and into the workplace, but eight out of ten women still say they do more housework than their male partners, and those with dependent children are even more likely to be slaving away. Contrary to what the Telegraphmight say, being part of a couple where you both do an equal amount of housework doesn’t condemn you to divorce, depression, and a dead husband by 33. What we’re talking about when we talk about housework are entrenched ideas that housework and childcare are women’s work and, because women are paid less than men, they’re more likely to give up their jobs to enter a world of underpaid drudgery. It should go without saying that making the choice to stay at home is as admirable as any work, and a choice that deserves social recognition rather than eye-rolling snipes about "desperate housewives", but the point is that many can’t make a choice when their hand is forced financially or socially. Obvious solutions, such as improved provisions for paternity leave, subsidised childcare, equal pay, and just generally being more like Sweden are frustratingly still a long way off.

2. The Media

Yep, that thing that we’ve been banging on about for over a year now: the media does a lot to perpetuate unhelpful stereotypes, and culprits range from Weetabix (whose sexist ad implies your lad can be a superhero but your daughter can’t), to Unilever (skinny women aren’t "real" women and/or dark-skinned women should get paler), to fashion magazines (skinny women are the only women), to the Daily Mail (eight year old celebrates her curves in unauthorised bikini shot - hasn’t she inherited her model mother’s legs?) to the sexist scrutiny of female politicians, to the tellybox (just 18 per cent of TV presenters are women over 50), all of which have real-life implications. One study showed that 70 per cent of girls under 7 say they want to be thinner, for example, with the average British woman worrying about their body every 15 minutes. With body anxiety this pervasive, it can be hard to know where to start when it comes to media sexism (though more women in top positions is a big one). Campaigns against lads’ mags and theSun’s Page Three have been gaining ground for a while now, and adding your signatures to these is a step in the right direction. Organisations such as Media Smart, Endangered Bodies, UK Feminista and AnyBody are campaigning hard on these issues, while young feminists are lobbying advertisers and engaging in sticker sabotage. Every little helps.

3. The Glass Ceiling

As many commentators rightly pointed out after the death of Margaret Thatcher that Maggie "made it through the glass ceiling, but pulled the ladder up after her": a phrase that reminded us all of how reinforced that glass really is. Thatcher herself wanted none of the feminist cause, frequently referring to herself as an anomaly amongst the weaker sex; women successes of the modern age are slightly more charitable, with Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg ostensibly helping to winch her sisters through the ceiling with her bestselling career advice book Lean In. AlthoughLean In is based around the idea that - in the words of Eleanor Roosevelt - "No one can make you inferior without your permission", the reality of the workplace in numbers is that 22 out of 197 global heads of state are women; the percentage of women at the top in job sectors ranging from government to journalism to law in the UK and US levels out at 22 per cent; 18 of the Fortune 500 CEOs are female; women returning to work after having children are likely to see their careers progress downward rather than upward. Personal ambition is undoubtedly an asset, but acknowledging that we must fight overarching sexist structures in the workplace - yes, even through "positive discrimination" - is key.

4. Social Inequality

Around 58 per cent of carers are female according to the Office of National Statistics, with women in full-time work still more likely to be carers than men in full-time work. Transgendered women remain extremely likely to be prejudiced against; lesbian women tend to experience higher levels of discrimination in the UK than gay men. Black African women who are asylum seekers in the UK have an appallingly high mortality rate, estimated at 7 times higher than for white women. The most persistent health disparities, according to the latest EHRC report, were best illustrated by the fact that a quarter of Bangladeshi and Pakistani women reported a disability in the last census, rising to two thirds of Pakistani women in older age groups. This rather depressing state of affairs shows that issues of race, disability, sexual orientation and gender (amongst many other things) often combine to create a reality of extreme disadvantage for certain groups. Most of the time, these groups are female.

5. Violence Against Women

Although it is no longer the case in Britain, a large percentage of the world refuses to recognise rape within marriage as a criminal offence. Meanwhile, here in the UK, 89 per cent of regular domestic violence victims are women, and two women a week are killed by a male partner or former partner. The "banter" culture that surrounds violence against women - jokes about "rape as surprise sex"; "I’d have sex with her" recast as "I’d smash it" - doesn’t do this state of affairs any favours. So long as women are disproportionately targeted for violence, our work is never done - which is why the great work of charities like Women’s Aid is so encouraging. 

Put like this, sexism today can seem an insurmountable obstacle, despite all of our past collective achievements. But it’s worth remembering that often, just drawing attention to inequality can be enough to get people on board with tackling it; consider the huge popularity of Everyday Sexism. If you don’t know where to start, places like UK Feminista have a campaign for every form of stigma, ranging from discussions of why people assume that Muslim women wearing headscarves "don’t have a voice", to policing plastic surgery adverts in magazines. It’s still a tough world out there for The Ladies, and we hope that we’ve demonstrated how sexism remains at work in 2013. Here's hoping modern feminism will tackle it; as we all know, a fight on many fronts greatly improves our chances.